Dating has never been easy. Never. Which means it is one of the most interesting, absurd and hilarious human experiences to discuss. Now we live in a world where the logistics and a bunch of admin is done for us, but it’s a wild west of behaviour protocols and expectations. Of swipes, ghosts, strings of casual flings all messaging at once, serial monogamy, and “what are we??” texts to friends. In this episode we cover the pros, pitfalls, and transactional nature of dating apps, what the experience of dating can teach us about ourselves, finding someone with baggage that fits yours, and whether it’s easier to find someone online or in person (among many other things).
Bridget Morrison is what is commonly referred to as a Girl Boss. She’s a creative, co-editor of Kindred Zine, social media content creator and marketer, barista, and uni student. She is brilliantly funny and intelligent, and as in love with John Mulaney as I am.
In a startling turn of events, since recording this Bridget is now in a relationship with a gentleman she met on Hinge, and I’ve got a date with that guy I saw who made me think “oh shit.” So it looks like the universe or some such omnipotent force is having a laugh, and turning our lives in to romcoms. We have no complaints as yet.
Keep well,
-Paula
EPISODE NOTES:
Things We Mentioned
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Turns out Bridget is not alonein her Tinder usage habits. According to Lendedu (a loan service in the US? Why are they interested?) over 40% of Tinder users mostly use it for ego-boosting procrastination, and they also note how unlikely people are to actually meet up with matches. Read more about it here https://lendedu.com/blog/tinder-match-millennials/
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When Brené Brown tells you not to do something, you listen. Stop working your shit out on other people.
Here’s a little bit more on that and some other points covered in her Netflix special on vulnerability and courage: https://www.newsweek.com/brene-brown-netflix-special-vulnerability-quotes-ted-talk-call-courage-1400956
And here’s a lot more on that from Brené herself, specifically in connection to leadership: https://brenebrown.com/articles/2018/12/04/leading-from-hurt-versus-leading-from-heart/
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First impressions are notoriously powerful, and it turns out that is doubly true in the context of deciding if you’re attracted to someone. Here’s an op-ed in INC about it https://www.inc.com/melanie-curtin/science-says-you-do-this-surprising-thing-in-just-3-seconds-hint-it-has-to-do-with-attraction.html
And here’s a broader look at the science of it all in The Guardian.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2009/mar/07/first-impressions-snap-decisions-impulse
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Daniel Sloss’ Jigsaw is on Netflix and you should watch it, like, yesterday. Stand up comedy with belly laughs AND a TEDtalk segment. What more could you want?
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